“Where are all the decent young men that would have swarmed around her in my generation?”
Keep in mind that you did ask.
For millions of us guys, we see a country where women basically own men, if they choose, when it comes to marriage, and we don’t like it. We’ve seen our friends get burned, everyone of us, and we take the steps needed to minimize the chance of us getting burned. In some case, we simply refuse to marry, or not have kids (to the extent we can), knowing that our ‘women’ will stay with us anyway, out of their own insecurity and because they always think they can change us.
In other cases, we marry immigrants or foreigners, where the value system has not been trashed like it has here. That was my answer (and, obviously, the same for millions of others). For example my wife has a boatload of sisters, all married, none ever divorced, for decades now. The first one to jump ship is the outcast. In the American system, that doesn’t happen - the first thing a woman hears from her friends and family if she has a little spat with hubby is “hire a lawyer and clean him out”.
Obviously I’m generalizing, but my point is that your daughter pays the price of American feminism. I tell my kids, at least the boys, to never marry an American-born girl - it’s just too risky, especially given our educational system and our colleges. The divorce rate for men married to immigrants is less than half of that for men married to Americans (I think a lot less), so it’s simply a probability game now. Why risk a crappy adulthood, when there are such easy steps to avoid it?
That’s pretty depressing Bob. I have a teenage daughter who will attend college next year. She doesn’t share the “clean a guy out” point of view. But I’m sure a few of her friends do.
Because she’s a “brick house” my worry is some knucklehead will come along and treat her like dirt!