Certainly you can tell them to slow down.
YELL AT THEM.
And get the consequences.
Under NC law, and it is similar in most states, precipitating a confrontation removes the right to claim self defense.
How about some links to the NC or FL statutes or criminal code articles dealing with “precipitating a confrontation” in these cases? I mean, you *have* actually looked this stuff up, so the info should be close at hand... right?
Unreal.