See, Grumet loves being photographed. And she apparently loves having her son breastfeed. And she loves attention. And shes happy enough to get naked in front of other people (which there may be nothing wrong withfor her). But that may or may not be the case for her 3-year-old boy, which seems not to have mattered to herat all. And if his will was bent to hers in order to have him suck his mothers nipple in front of a photographer and makeup artist and art director and all of America, then it stands to reason that his will may be being bent to hers in all sorts of waysincluding protracted breastfeeding.
The truth is that what Time magazine may have unwittingly captured and been party to was a grotesque form of psychological abusethe parading into public of an intimate moment (intimate for mother and child) at the sole direction of that childs mother, who didnt stop to think that her child may not be able at the age of three to know what he thinks about the whole thing, much less to stop it, if he wanted to.
Grumet has stained the attachment parenting movement by documenting how easily it can go wrong, when used as an excuse for poor boundaries and manipulation.
In a way, while looking at the Time magazine cover, we are all Grumets son and may know something of his possible plight: finding her a compelling and dramatic presence, seduced by her combination of sex appeal and motherhoodunable, in fact, to detach from her.
Talk about a prescription for psychological disaster.
This is self-centeredness at its worst, sold as good parenting. And this is an act of media violence against a child, committed by adult journalists who also commandeered his will (as did his mother), for sensation and profit. Rarely do we get such evidence of how wrong parenting can go, how poorly journalists can behave and how slow we can be to recognize ugliness when it is disguised as something beautiful.
Dr. Keith Ablow is a psychiatrist and member of the Fox News Medical A-Team. Dr. Ablow can be reached at info@keithablow.com.
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I think maybe you could breastfeed a little extra, say to 18 months or so, if your child has a weakened immune system like in a preemie. But basically if your kid has teeth and can walk it's time to lose the nipple.
Seems like some kind of protracted infancy to me.
And appearently (info from an interview I read) her mom breastfed her till she was six so nutty-ness runs in the family.
Wow. Very well put. It's called respect for human dignity.
Infantile American males are shouting, “My turn, my turn!”.