It's a common dynamic, dahlink.
Posted on 01/08/2006 2:24:03 PM PST by Lorianne
It is 25 years since Terry Hekker hailed the housewife, now in a landmark decision the acclaimed author has rejected her past saying she was wrong
Terry Hekker wrote a book in 1980 that made her famous. Ever Since Adam & Eve was a passionate defence of her decision to eschew a career and spend her life as a wife and a mother.
Coming at the end of the Seventies, when feminism was enjoying a renaissance and the career woman was emerging from behind the cooker, Hekker became a celebrated poster child for more old-fashioned values. She wanted her job choice of 'homemaker' to be considered as valid as those of up-and-coming women bankers, bosses and company directors.
Today, Hekker told The Observer, she is planning a follow-up book. Its working, albeit jokey, title is bluntly honest: Disregard First Book. For her life did not turn out as she planned, and she now believes her decision to become a housewife and homemaker should serve as a warning for young American women. 'My anachronistic book was written while I was in a successful marriage that I expected would go on forever. Sadly, it now has little relevance for modern women, except perhaps as a cautionary tale,' Hekker wrote last week as she announced her U-turn.
In a display of spectacular bad taste, Hekker's husband presented her with divorce papers on their 40th wedding anniversary and left her for a younger woman. The divorce left her facing an uncertain financial future, bereft of income and - after spending her adult life bringing up five children - lacking skills to make her attractive in the job market. Despite that, the judge in her divorce case suggested that - at 67 - she go for job training.
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ah, so she wants the rest of the world to base their behavior on her personal bitterness.
Good move!
She might spare some of her bile for the feminists who insisted that no-fault divorce and free love would be a boon for women.
This climate of easy divorce is good for lowlifes only and hell for everyone else on so many levels.
Probably. No reason to change them.
It's a common dynamic, dahlink.
This confirms my observation - feminism is the repository for bitteress, hatred of men, and disgust with traditional marriage. The more bitterness and hatred, the more strident the feminist.
What a fine way to get back at the former husband, too - sliming the guy (who appears to have had it coming) on national television and with thousands of books. Revenge is a dish best served before a mass audience!
Respecting the value of being a homemaker is one thing; expecting to enjoy guaranteed lifetime privileges as a pet is another thing entirely.
Learning useful lifetime skills is a highly recommended idea regardless of one's attitude concerning women's role in home-making.
Yeah, but this lady gave her husband the gay.
Her first book was narrow and stupid, as will be the sequel.
No doubt a one-sided presentation of the facts.
Interestingly, somewhere around 2/3 of divorces are initiated by the wife. The popular stereotype of the husband dumping the wife for the hot new trophy bride is not usually the reality.
At 67 people are generally enjoying retirement. That's not being a pet.
Which means, correct me if I am wrong, that the husband initiates divorce proceeding around 1/3 of the time- making her scenario far from unlikely.
Gee, think her new book will get better coverage than her first book.
It happens, but my point is that the breakup of the family is generally portrayed on TV and elsewhere in popular culture as being the "fault" of the husband.
Her ex-husband is a cretin and a louse. Good riddance to him.
No, the reality is that that marriages are usually mutually failed, and women get around to the paperwork more often because men would leave it undone for years. They don't have a reason to finish it. Women more often do!
What do you mean by "enjoying lifetime privileges as a pet'?
If she did the unglamorous job of running things on the home front so that her husband could spend more time at his job, hasn't she also earned the right to some of his retirement funds?
I don't know what kind of world you live in, but at 67, I'm still going to have to be working.
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