How you appear to me is as part of a majority, but not a crushing majority, who has played a bad hand, refuses to admit a mistake, and is determined to silence opposition in his own ranks - to compel obedience.
While I admit the President was dealt a bad hand, I think he has played it well. You can't make two jacks into a flush.
The reason it seems the other side wishes to silence you and compel obedience is that it is YOU who is making the unreasonable demands.
What you want cannot be achieved right now...the political landscape does not allow it, yet you still would split the party seeking the perfect before the good.
Like the Dems who fight W at every turn then blame him for partisanship, you resist the fact that political realities (read spineless senate) force W to compromise and then blame him for not appeasing you.
You know, this nomination does not smack of having been put together by an expert negotiator who has done his homework. If the WH had put together the best list of qualified individuals they could find from whatever source, including democrats, vetted the list, started with those who were most agreeable to his own party and moved down the spectrum until they found a highly qualified individual who could be confirmed, I would agree with you that Bush did the best he could with a bad hand.
But when your best alternative to a negotiated agreement is far worse than what you could get out of a negotiated agreement - YOU NEGOTIATE. You don't start with your own counsel, known by no one and end with Harry Ried.