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Divorce and Remarriage: Call it what Jesus calls it … Adultery!
11-23-02 | Ex-Wretch

Posted on 11/23/2002 5:07:20 PM PST by Ex-Wretch

Mal. 2:16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

Jesus told the woman at the well (John 4:18). John the Baptist told Herod (Matt. 14:4). Up until as recently as 50 years ago, divorce and remarriage was well acknowledged as adultery. What has changed? It hasn’t been the Word of God!

The Word of God is quick and, sharper than a two-edged sword! Those who fear God and are led by the Holy Spirit are able to rightly divide and properly discern it. These are they which obey, rebuke, admonish and exhort one another in this sin-sick world. And likewise, they who do not obey (sinners), will take scripture and twist it to their liking so as to “justify” their disobedience and desire for pleasure. They wrest God’s word to agree with their sin. This is basic denial and, the selling of one’s soul for a mess of pottage. And, the biggest offenders today not only commit the sin but teach it and preach it from the pulpit. Woe unto these blind guides! Satan knows the Word of God. He used it to tempt Jesus into “justifying” comfort, disobedience and sin.

Matt. 19:6 “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

It is God that joins a man and a woman’s hearts together when they, without guile or deceit, vow before Him to bind themselves unto death. Courts only serve the purpose of providing legal witness that two people have voluntarily contracted under the laws of the state … not the laws, commands and precepts of God.

Matt. 6:31,32 “It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.”

Matt. 16:18, “Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.”

Some will say “doesn’t God forgive the adultery”? Most certainly. He also commands that it be repented of. That means turning away from it. God’s forgiveness is conditioned on our repentance. Jesus said that both he/she who divorces/remarries and him/her that has been divorced/remarried “committeth” adultery. That means that it is not just a one-time past sin but an ongoing sin. A person in a divorced/remarried state is living in a continual state of sin! A one-time forgiveness does not clear your continual sin. It must be forsaken! The adulterous connection must be broken! To choose one’s own way instead of God’s holy command is presumptuous at best and fatal at worst.

Matt. 19:8 “Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.”

John 4:17,18 The woman answered and said, “I have no husband.” Jesus said unto her, “Thou hast well said, I have no husband: For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly.”

Just like the scribes and Pharisees, others will say that the Old Testament, via Moses, allowed divorce and remarriage. Still, what does the Lord Jesus say? Only because your hearts were so hard and your ways were so carnal. If Moses hadn’t allowed you to separate you would have killed each other! (paraphrasing) But where, may I ask, is Jesus’ approval of divorce and remarriage? You won’t find it because he never gave it!

Matt. 6:12 “And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.”

Matt. 6:14,15 “For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”

Mark 10:27 And Jesus looking upon them saith, “With men it is impossible, but not with God: for with God all things are possible.”

Still, many will say “if the wife or husband is unfaithful then the marriage covenant has been broken and the innocent party is free to divorce and remarry”. Is that so? What does “for better or for worse” mean if not this? If, after coming to a saving relationship with Christ, you fall and sin, is He free to divorce you? Are we not to emulate our Lord? Isn’t this what being Christ-like is all about? Of course it hurts to be cheated on! Yet, if we do not forgive as He forgives us, we have the full assurance of His Word that our heavenly Father will not forgive us! Is hanging on to your hurt and bitterness worth eternal damnation? Forgive. Forget. Surrender all to Jesus. Be healed. Seventy times seven.

Proverbs 25:28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.

Yes, marriage is a picture of Christ and His church. Jesus is the head and we are the body. The man is to be the head but, he is to be under Jesus as Head. He is to provide for his wife and direct the family as he also submits to the guidance and direction of the Lord. Just as he expects his wife to yield unto him, he must also yield unto Christ. If he will not submit to the Lordship of Jesus Christ in his life, he cannot even govern his own life righteously.

Mark 9:23 Jesus said unto him, “If thou canst believe, all things are possible to him that believeth.”

And to those who say “it is too hard” or “unnatural” to live alone without a mate, well, Jesus proved it was possible to abstain from sex. Isn’t God’s grace enough to keep you? It’s enough to save you but not enough to keep you from sinful sexual relations?

Matt. 19:12 “For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.

And what if your spouse has divorced you? Even if it was for Christ’s sake? How are we to live then? Is it possible to live a life holy and pleasing unto the Lord when all that is natural screams out for the companionship and affection of a mate? Remember friend, our dear Lord was also fashioned after a man and was in all points tempted as we are. He died and rose again so that we could have power in this life over sin, the devil and the flesh! We are to walk as he walked. Yes! It is possible to be delivered and kept from yielding to the carnal lusts and live in victory over sin!

Phil. 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”


TOPICS: Ministry/Outreach; Moral Issues; Religion & Politics
KEYWORDS: adultery; catholiclist; divorce; remarriage
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Kinda like for them that have ears to hear! Can't help but shout it like a watchman. Just as it was in the days of Noah ...
1 posted on 11/23/2002 5:07:20 PM PST by Ex-Wretch
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To: Ex-Wretch
Thank God for mercy!

All we do for Him, should be done in the spirit of love. We can't condemn people into the kingdom, we have to LOVE them in.

I'm certain you agree. Your post has a taint of condemnation to it. I just hope the compassion of Christ is equally prevalent in your other efforts at witness.

Bless you,

John 10:9

Revealtion 22:17
2 posted on 11/23/2002 5:16:14 PM PST by Radical Poet
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To: Radical Poet
For the time is come that judgment must begin at the house of God: and if it first begin at us, what shall the end be of them that obey not the gospel of God? And if the righteous scarcely be saved, where shall the ungodly and the sinner appear? (1 Peter 4:17,18)

To warn someone from impending peril is love.

There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.(Proverbs 16:25)

3 posted on 11/23/2002 5:52:56 PM PST by Ex-Wretch
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To: Ex-Wretch
Matthew 5:32 "But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery."

Gee, that sure sounds as if there is a case where one may divorce.

4 posted on 11/23/2002 8:52:19 PM PST by FormerLib
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To: Ex-Wretch
Divorce and remarriage...call it adultery.

Sometimes Jesus calls it "Adultery with an asterisk."

Adultery****

5 posted on 11/23/2002 9:09:24 PM PST by xzins
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To: FormerLib
... "and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery."

God hates divorce, plain and simple. Nevertheless, where in Jesus' statement do you find his approval to remarry?

6 posted on 11/24/2002 1:05:51 AM PST by Ex-Wretch
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To: Ex-Wretch
As God is good, He should not seem so cruel as to suffer people through irrepairable marriages, determined, of course, but by His accounting of our soul's merits.

This was recognized early in the promulgation of Mosaic law, and bears consideration, I believe, as tragic as divorce indeed always is - especially where children are concerned - for the spiritual and social sake of the individual and society.

7 posted on 11/24/2002 12:23:55 PM PST by onedoug
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To: Ex-Wretch
God hates divorce, plain and simple.

God hates sin is how I would put it.

Nevertheless, where in Jesus' statement do you find his approval to remarry?

Here: "But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery..."

At that time, a Jew could remarry after any divorce. Jesus has just narrowed the permissibility. The implication clearly is that the sin of adultery can destroy a marriage. I don't believe that Jesus expects someone to remain in a marriage when the other party treats the institution as a farce.

8 posted on 11/24/2002 1:36:42 PM PST by FormerLib
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To: FormerLib
Separating because of an adulterous spouse is because forgiveness is not forthcoming from the abused spouse. Even so, if they put the offending party away (divorce) given the permission you note, you still miss the other question, namely: Where is the Lord's permission/blessing to remarry someone other than his/her original spouse? Point being ... HE NEVER GAVE APPROVAL, PERMISSION OR BLESSING. Why? BECAUSE IT WOULD BE ADULTERY! If the couple reconcile or if one spouse dies. Those are the only allowances provided. All else is not blessed by Him.
9 posted on 11/24/2002 1:59:23 PM PST by Ex-Wretch
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To: sandyeggo
"Life is a speck compared to eternity."

That is a big 10-4! :)

11 posted on 11/24/2002 3:52:58 PM PST by Ex-Wretch
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To: Ex-Wretch
HE NEVER GAVE APPROVAL, PERMISSION OR BLESSING.

No, you miss the point. Jesus is not discussing this with people for whom this idea is a blank slate. Jewish practice at the time allowed for remarriage after divorce. Now Jesus is saying that divorce is only acceptable for a very narrow set of circumstances and he does not even mention remarriage. That suggests that he is not modifying the practice concerning remarriage after divorce, only that he is restricting divorce.

12 posted on 11/24/2002 4:20:03 PM PST by FormerLib
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To: FormerLib
Let me guess. Are you divorced and remarried or married to a divorced person?
13 posted on 11/24/2002 8:21:49 PM PST by Ex-Wretch
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To: Ex-Wretch
Let me guess. Are you divorced and remarried or married to a divorced person?

You guess poorly. I am neither.

I have no personal stake in this, but I do have a habit of challenging incorrect Biblical interpretations.

14 posted on 11/24/2002 8:27:52 PM PST by FormerLib
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To: FormerLib
Tell it to Jesus. He made the rules.
15 posted on 11/24/2002 8:30:11 PM PST by Ex-Wretch
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To: Ex-Wretch
Yes, He made the rules...but you misread them.

Unlike you, I don't tell Jesus anything. I only listen, and He tells us "...I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality..."

I guess you'll set Him straight someday.

16 posted on 11/24/2002 8:33:07 PM PST by FormerLib
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To: FormerLib
When He ok's adultery, I'll be sure to jump right in. Same with fornication, sodomy, theft, murder, etc. Wheeee! Can live just like the world and make it to heaven. What a deal!
17 posted on 11/24/2002 8:37:23 PM PST by Ex-Wretch
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To: Ex-Wretch
When He ok's adultery, I'll be sure to jump right in. Same with fornication, sodomy, theft, murder, etc. Wheeee! Can live just like the world and make it to heaven.

Somehow, I was hoping for a higher level of discussion from one of you guys. Just once. It would have been a first. Ah well, time to move on to a serious discussion. Ranting nonsense I can get anywhere.

Goodbye.

18 posted on 11/24/2002 8:43:38 PM PST by FormerLib
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To: Ex-Wretch
I agree ..BUT We have a Savior ...

If there is TRUE repentance that like all sin is covered in the blood of Chriat

1Jo 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

I hate divorce but I am not sure it is worse than other sins..it is just more visible

19 posted on 11/24/2002 9:01:04 PM PST by RnMomof7
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To: RnMomof7
1Jo 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness

Understand correctly. The divorce happens one time. You repent. It is forgiven. You then remarry(to someone other than your spouse). You commit adultery and are living in a continual state of adultery. Do you live in a constant state of repentance? I don't think so. To repent means to break off from doing it. God does not bless an adulterous union! Otherwise, you could use your justification for rape, murder, drunkeness, etc. We are to get the victory over the flesh, sin and the world (i.e. "be ye holy as I am holy", "let him that nameth the name of Christ depart from all iniquity")

Whom God hath set forth to be a propitiation through faith in his blood, to declare his righteousness for the remission of sins that are past, through the forbearance of God;(Romans 3:25)

Get it? No approval ever given to live in sin.

20 posted on 11/25/2002 8:52:23 AM PST by Ex-Wretch
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