OK moron I’m a contractor - wife is a social worker We both work full
Time
Our bills are like $9000 a month
you tell us how we stop working and then try to educate our kids
you’re an idiot
I got plenty of engineering knowledge and whatever to teach my kids
but you know what it’s free babysitting service
I used to joke around when they were younger I used to call and pay school a.k.a. preschool and now free school
Life is about choices. Like Dave Ramsey says, “you can have anything you want, but you can’t have everything you want.”
$9000/month in bills shows that the zip code, house, vehicles etc. take priority over being able to educate your children. No need to call others names because you’ve made certain choices.
Please, do not take this personally. I do not know you or your situation well enough to comment on.
However, I can state whole heatedly that whatever our circumstances may be , that is the current classroom they are being educated, molded and conditioned by.
Long work hours, stress, bills ,etc are more often the norm than we would like. But, it is in those environments, or at least overcoming them, where our children learn how to stand and develop confidence in knowing they can and will work through it.
I’m not saying that suffering is a preferred path for educating children, just a common one that, thankfully presents just as much education material as any other.
Pathetic that you would start off your response by calling her a "moron".
My wife's earning power was similar to mine - but we went to a single paycheck when our daughter was born.
We do without a LOT of things other families enjoy, and have really tightened our belts to be able to do this.
But we knew that we could never get those 13 years back once they had slipped by - so we gladly subjugated our "wants" for the "needs" of our daughter.
Maybe your "moron" comment was subconsciously directed back at yourself?
That is one of the saddest post I have ever seen here on FR. I will pray for your kids.
You sound violently defensive, probably for good reason.
The vitriol you spewed at someone who didn’t say a word to you nor called you out by name is alarming. Why do you have such anger at someone simply for what they posted? I’m guessing you read the title of the post - why did you decide to open it up? Just to hurl insults at a longtime Freeper who has advocated home schooling for years? Your aggression seems misplaced.
My wife and I are both college educated. She was an 8th grade English teacher at a private Christian school. We decided that she would be a homemaker before we started our family. We knew that meant living on my income alone. We were committed to doing it that way and made whatever sacrifices were necessary. That meant that I worked two or three jobs sometimes at over 100 hours a week.
We didn’t have a boat or a camper. We didn’t go on Disney vacations or rent a Jersey shore house. We made the most out of every opportunity we had and took our three daughters almost everywhere we went (except for marriage conferences = )).
After 22 years of homeschooling, my eldest daughter earned a full tuition scholarship to a big city university, graduated, applied to 10 graduate schools and was accepted at 8 of them. She begins her grad school in May.
My middle daughter is currently at the same university and earned the same full tuition scholarship. She graduates next year with a double major in Speech/Language Pathology and Spanish. She will also earn certificates in Arabic and Linguistics. She is prepping for her GRE exam and will start applying to grad schools this summer.
My youngest daughter completed her homeschooling last year and wants nothing to do with college. She is currently working as a tech in a physical therapy clinic.
All of this was accomplished on one income that never exceeded $50K/year. And we own our home and all the vehicles we drive. Did we do without? You betcha. But we wouldn’t trade those years for any amount of $$ you would throw at us.
It’s your choice. I don’t know what all is included in your monthly debt number, but where you have the ability to downsize/do without, do so. It won’t kill you and you will probably never miss it. If you choose not to, that’s your choice to make as well. But reaming someone out on a public forum because you choose a different path than they did seems misguided.
All the best to you and your family. And a blessed Resurrection Day to you as well.
Truck
$9,000/month?
Is someone seriously sick ( physically) in your household?
Or....Where are you living?