Then we are both Deists. God didn’t order the Chromosomic defect for your child or the horrible genetic disaster in my grand son. He did not punish your child. He does not impose Cancer on anyone. Right? I understand he is “sovereign” but the definition is very important. It doesn’t mean he drives your car if you are texting at 80 MPH. Right?
If I sin...does God cause me to sin? No. God cannot cause someone to sin as it is against His nature.
I serve a loving and forgiving, but just, God. As I noted in the passage from Romans, He causes all things to work together for good to those who love Him and called for His purpose.
There is a difference between Gods permissive will and His perfect will. When God allowed free will and we sinned things haliened that God did not desire but permitted as the cost of our free will.
The other side of the coin is the little ones that suffer do so only for a short time. Paul says our light and momentary sufferings are nothing in comparison to the glory that awaits. God thinks this present suffering is worth the outcome. Who am I to argue with Him? Eternity with the Lord is so glorious that what seems overwhelming now will vanish the moment we see Him face to face.