There was a time I actually could buy clothes for my wife. She hates to shop. Very unusual for a woman.
From her youth she was petite. Short legs & arms, amply built, very nice figure, but the proportions made shopping difficult. Her mom would force her to go. As a result she was always dressed well, but did not like shopping for clothes.
It took a long time before I realized what the issue was and we actually talked about it. Made a lot of sense. But she would never have actually have told me about it.
It’s good that you talked.
My wife has issues from pop leaving and cheating when she was 14. He is deceased now.
I never though much of him (sorry to speak ill of the dead) but she though he was the great thing in the world.
Hard dealing with the repercussions...insecurity, fear, doubt, low self esteem. I talk firm and strongly and kind when I see hints of her starting to fall apart over something. Usually works.