[defconw]

Sounds reasonable. We have moved about 9 hours away the epicenter, so now I feel less constrained. For the record, a friend of mine, got divorced and remarried out side of the Church, years ago. They had both been Catholics. Her family was upset and his family was upset. My arm got twisted into attending. They got married at an indoor golf course. Worst wedding I ever went to. The friendship waned. I took a stand about that wedding and it was messy. Like I said my arm got twisted. Never again.

[DarkSavant]

I had my divorced of six months lapsed Catholic friend in my wedding party. I invited him and his three kids. Got the invite back, he crossed out his three kid's names and put his new girlfriend.

I said it was unacceptable to my folks. They declared World War III on me for being so "judgemental". I finally said nothing to him(arm twisting, if you will), though he certainly knew my thoughts. He's now in a miserable, wretched marriage to her.

Like you said, never again.

[tioga]

To my friends, even Catholic ones, I will state truth. State it clearly, just once, in a kind way. Then I will hold my tongue.

For instance, I have a friend who holds grudges. She was/is a lapsed Catholic. I told her that her inability to forgive was a grave sin and that she really needed to deal with it. I advised her to get back to mass and confession. I told her I would not harp on her about it, but that I would be praying for her. It’s been a few years, but she stopped me recently to say she was going to start back at church. Still haven’t actually spotted her there.