Bm
I’ve always thought that pornography was an addiction like smoking of alcoholism and have wondered if there is a PA (Pornographers Anonymous)through which they could get help.
I have created a website to explain the root cause of the problem behind Christian’s problems with sex outside of marriage. While it is a long article it may clear up some questions.
http://leadershipinmarriage.wix.com/leadership
A lot of people don’t think there’s anything wrong in the sexual consumption of other human beings. Sometimes one gets the impression that sexual consumption - or at least the possibility of it - is the only reason other people are justified in existing at all.
It’s the breakdown in relationships between males and females.
I saw it as a teenager in the 90s where males were continuously demonized everywhere as pigs, idiots, and rubes. They turned a whole generation of girls into militant feminists, and then started promoting lesbianism as an alternative to being with “nasty” guys.
So what were guys to do? Deal with all of that crap or go look at pictures of women and movies that didnt judge them or see their sex drive as being a sickness? It didnt cost them anything, and was less mentally stressful.
This is going to be a hard habit to break.
Porn is just the symptom and not the source of the problem. The sin lies in the heart. To address this purely as an external vice will always result in what the author is experiencing, frustration. No amount of external controls will fix the heart.
I am not saying that the external does not matter. I am saying that the internal matters more. When you put out a fire, you must aim the extinguishing substance at the base of the flame where the fuel is being oxidized rather than at the bright colors where the heat seems to be coming from.
We can lock our phones, our televisions, or computers and be accompanied everywhere so as to be accountable for what we buy and everything we do, but these steps will still be unable to fix a heart problem. It will still be possible to lust in the imagination where only the imaginer and God can see.
Never found the attraction. Watching other people have sex that aren’t me.
The place to start is to explain that it is a mortal sin, and they that do such will not inherit the kingdom of God. They need to repent, confess their sins, and not do them any more. The idea that saying words alone saves them from eternal punishment no matter what works they produce is subtly dangerous. What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him? and again Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,