If you had sex with her before her husband died you committed adultery. After her husband died when you first had sex with her (if you did) you became married to her.
The real problem with cohabitation for the Christian is that everyone assumes that if you are living with a person of the opposite sex then you are having sex with them. (Which I’d hazard is true more often than not)
So even if you are not sinning you are leading others to think that sin is OK (After all, if rarestia is getting laid every day I may as well too. He’s a Christian so it must be alright).
This is why 1 THES 5:22 tells us “Abstain from all appearance of evil.”
Our witness is important and must be protected.
Her husband died from OD not too long after she moved in. It was getting really bad, and when she finally cut him off financially, he went on a series of benders until he was just found dead.
I don’t recall when we first made love, but it was after he was dead.
So true. I remember a Jesuit retreat master saying “Sex isn’t something; it’s someone.
The essence of Marriage in other words.