Read my post, I already said that individual people, clubs, cults and religions can already call whatever they want to “marriage”, it just doesn’t make it legal, try to collect widow benefits from the military when your marriage isn’t a legal marriage.
“Actually they can already, anyone can and always could, it just wasn’t legal when it came time for divorce or death, child custody, inheritance etc, or in the military for instance, one of the countless places where the government has to decide which soldiers are legally “married”.”
Your position seems to be to end any definition of marriage and just let everyone define it for themselves.
Your position seems much more anti marriage than anyone else’s.
There has not really ever been a time when marriage wasn’t legally defined, whether by Roman law, Greek law, Apache law, or Sharia law, or some powerful state like church law.
I'm simply recognizing the facts currently in evidence. When was the last time that a couple was arrested in the U.S. for having intercourse without being married?
Those are the facts of state sanctioned marriage, i.e. its meaningless. Why get a license to do something that doesn't require a licencse.
The Church defines marriage differently, as a sacrament. As state marriage is meaningless, it is harmful to the sacrament to pretend that the two are the same.