My favorite “church” is the great outdoors with fresh air and good fishing.
After that, it is one which preaches sound doctrine and has a congregation who seem genuinely interested in helping each other.
your point 2. Sound doctrine doesn’t get us in heaven. “Go away, I never knew you..........” always haunts me. As I read the Bible more, it is about having a repenting/changing relationship with God.
your point 3. This helping thing has me puzzled, but I am getting more convinced we have to stop helping people and let God help them first. When we solve problems, we shortcut Gods work many times.
There are more than a few people out there genuinely deserving of help. And God helps us when we help them.
I'm not talking about the jag-offs with ObamaPhones demanding more and more. I'm talking about people with genuine needs.
A few years ago, my wife and I took in six kids from a single father (his wife had abandoned the marriage) who was being railroaded on a false sexual contact with a minor charge. We didn't know how long it was going to be and it was a challenge. But it turned out that six weeks was all he needed to get custody of his children back and get the bogus charges dismissed from yet another worthless judge trying to make a name for himself.
I don't know how our family friend would've solved that problem on his own.
There have been other times that people have helped us with needs not quite so dramatic. We've never been blessed with a fat bank account, but we have been blessed with health and other resources to assist others from time to time.