Taking that as a friendly question: I use the word "gay" as a description of a perverted attraction or a disordered mental state, not as how the plumbing is used (it shouldn't be used at all at that age). I would hope that few straight boys in BSA are sexually active and that leadership and parents would strongly discourage that activity and offer interesting alternate activities that are much more likely to come to fruition than dreams of early sex. I would hope that no gay boys at all in BSA are sexually active and that leadership and parents would discourage that activity - more strongly for gay sex than for straight sex, but very strongly on both accounts.
A perverted attraction to what? You seem to be dancing around the issue -the issue being the ONLY differentiator between normal and 'gay'. Let me tell you something -I am a man, I love my father, I love my brothers, AND I love my son. Is there anything perverse about that? 'Gay' is not about love. Gay is not about a state of being. What makes 'gay' not perverse?
Pretending that 'gay' has nothing to do with sex is delusional at best. There is nothing neutral or good about 'gay'