"Well the standard answer is that LDS women are overworked, heading large families, and struggling to meet too-high expectations of perfection. But is that what is really going on? The report states that three realities are much more basic. In the Mormon Church: 1) for females, One size fits all, 2) females obey males from birth to death, and 3) females lack control of their own life choices. What follows is a laundry list of expectations and rules Mormon women are to uphold to be in good standing with the Mormon Church:
Be respectfully, politely, humbly and gratefully subservient to Mormon males in personal demeanor, activities, beliefs, plans and thought.
Not be, nor aspire to be, nor hope to be, independent from authoritarian males, nor independent in thought.
Attend male-directed religious services.
Participate in male-directed activities. (Even female-led projects are organized under male authorities.)
Attend male-directed weekday seminary classes in addition to academic school.
Obey all male-hierarchy-generated directives.
Submit to male-originated personal-matter (including sexual) private interviews.
Obtain a Patriarchal Blessing which usually promises becoming a mother in Zion if faithful and obedient.
Do genealogy research on male-headed (patriarchal) family lineages.
Marry an LDS man in an LDS templeand live in a state worthy to do so beforehand.
Accept counsel from her husband and not as just his opinionbut as God-inspired revelation.
Look to her husband as essential to her entry into the best category of Heaven.
Have children, more being far better than few.
Raise all of her children in this exact-same religious and social system.
Attend only the chapel assigned to her residence address, regardless of preference.
Accept that if she and family attend any other than this chapel, she and they cannot enter Mormon temples.
Know that her husband may, in the next life, marry numerous additional wives.
Know that she may not marry any additional husband, here (if still married to the first one) or hereafter.
Accept callings to work in church, auxiliary and welfare-project organizations.
Make several forms of financial contributions, ten percent tithing being only mandatory one; but with pressure to make even more.
Teach her children to become missionaries to convert other individuals into this same system.
Teach this same system to her grandchildren.
Teach her daughters and granddaughters to obey males at home and at church.
Never openly criticize any doctrine, practice, directive or male authority related to any of the above.
And that is the one-size-fits-all-females laundry list of expectations. Each LDS female gains and retains respect, and even acceptance, only by adhering to these behaviors and attitudes, assigned to her by others, most often males, rather than freely chosen by herself. And, her sole judges on her efforts and merits are men placed in authority above her by what shes told is Gods Divine Plan.
“ Know that she may not marry any additional husband, here (if still married to the first one) or hereafter.”
My next door neighbor is a divorced Mormon and she uses the LDS Dating Service. There are lots of Mormons looking for new spouses either due to death or divorce.
All those expectations and STILL some women want to be missionaires!?