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> I’m not knowledgble about this procedure but maybe find a way where the unused embryos won’t be discarded or harmed??

The problem is that even providing adoption possibilities is that there are not nearly enough takers... people want their own genetics for their children, after all. Some takers are (as stated in the article someone quoted above) homosexual, so that’s an issue too. And part of the problem when you have “excess” is that the embryos are considered as “things” and not people. This propels society into cheapening life.

It’s a tough, tough, issue to struggle with and I would never say anything to anyone who chose to have a child this way. I still have 2nd (3rd, 4th, infinitieth) thoughts about it. I laid awake crying so many nights when I first learned I was in perimenopause and that I would be childless. I’m hoping God continues to give me the strength to fulfill his plan for me in some way where my childlessness either teaches me something or fulfills some purpose. I pray every day about this.

I often wonder if part of the reason some couples are unable to naturally bear their own children is because God wants them to parent an orphaned child. There are many reasons why children end up parent-less and that happened even thousands of years ago - much worse, in fact. The Christians were the ones who started some of the first orphanages taking in babies and children abandoned or discarded. In Rome, unwanted newborns were thrown into garbage heaps to die of exposure, starvation, wild animals, etc. It was horrific and, sadly, some of it still happens in the world. God holds all life as sacred and I do not doubt for a minute that he wants all children to be raised in Godly, two-parent homes.

There are also many older children that are bypassed for adoption because many couples only want babies today. But these children have the same needs for loving homes and could be a blessing to families. Perhaps this may be God's will for you and your husband?