-The Catholics are down at the Assembly of God, they say they’re happy, but life without the sacraments is a heavy cross.
-I hear when Novus Ordo folks visit the Traditionalists, the sense a disdain toward themselves from the Traditionalists. I guess it is understandable that such attitudes would develop.
-what to do with people who are hostile toward hyper-parochialism?
Many trads are tough-minded and some are shy but do not intend to be disdainful. People with large families tend to focus on their families and just a few well-known friends. Should trads make a conscious effort at being more welcoming to newcomers? I think so. However, one should come to mass to commune with God, first and foremost, rather than with one's fellow man.
My experience is that regulars at a new parish tend to warm up and initiate conversation after I have been there a few times. It may take perseverance to fit in, but the TLM is well worth the effort.