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I know its like talking to choir
I pestered my parents so much I got to date at 15. I wish they had made me wait till 18.
It was the rule in our household for our kids (and the last one just turned 18). In fact, it was worse than that. We had to meet (face-to-face) any young man who wanted to take our daughter out. Needless to say, the few dates she did have were with real young men who weren’t afraid to abide by the standard.
“Out” is too big a place to take my daughter.
The 16 rule was in place when I was growing up. Of course, I was so busy with sports and clubs and schoolwork I didn’t have time to date. I had a total of two dates in HS and both of those where double dates. Didn’t really date until college.
I think kids that are into early dating probably don’t have much else going on in their lives. They’re bored and the parents are AWOL.
Church “rule” is 16. Like hell. My daughter ain’t datin nobody till she’s 21 or moved out and I can’t say anything about it anymore.
Kids are trying to grow up too fast these days.
Early dating does nothing but inculcate a child with the idea that relationships are made to last no more than 4 weeks and be ditched at the first sign of difficulty.
She resists some of these rules a bit, but not much. She's a typical teenager, testing the limits and if Mom & Dad really mean what they say. Her first dating experience was a bad one - she broke the rules, the date was unauthorized and she did not have a double or chaperone. My wife was inspired to be at the right place at the right time to save her from a bad situation. My teen learned from that and has been more eager to comply.
I think the date has gone the way of the dodo, at least for teenagers. When I was a teen in the 90’s, nobody “dated”- kids tended to hang out in mixed groups and couples would come out of that setting. But the whole boy-girl date was fairly rare.
I have 3 daughters and they know the rule; no dating until you are 17 and the young man has to come and ask me nose to nose.
Thats the rule no execptions.
Mrs. RB and I are in agreement on that one and our daughters 12,10 and 5 understand.
at least until they turn 16.....
Good comments from Mr. Card. Chaperones are good, too. My daughter went on a date (bowling) that included her little brother and the boy’s little brother.
As I told my daughter if the boys can make it through the barbed wire navigate the mine field, swim the crocodile filled moat, scale the fortified convent, make it past the rifle toting nuns on the parapet, avoid the nest of rattle snakes outside your door. Heck sure you can date before your 16.
When I met my future wife, she had just turned 15, I was 17, and her house was a 2 hour drive away from my house. I knew that night she was ‘the one’ but wisely said nothing about it to anybody.
We wrote lots of letters and made sure to be at church dances that the other was going to be at as often as we could, but we did not date. One week after she turned 16 we had one date before her dad was transfered halfway across the country (he was military). We went to a concert together with her older brother and his date.
She came back for my mission farewell, we hung out with friends but didn’t have a formal date. We continued writing to each other and 6 weeks after I got back from my mission I asked her to marry me. Her family had moved again so she was now 6 hours away. Two months after we were engaged we finally were living in the same city and actually dated in a serious way. We’ve been married nearly 20 years now and it’s been great.
There is no need to rush things, let kids be kids as long as they can, because they can never go back to it once they grow up. I’m glad to see OSC holding the line here. Why on earth is he a Democrat?