Mark Shea puts this quite well. Worth pondering.
If she loves him, she just might love those who are in him as her own and pray they will love her son with all their heart, soul, mind, and strength. Likewise, if Jesus loves her in a unique way and we are to be like him . . . well, you can work that one out.
But He didn't love 'her' in a unique way...He loved her as we all love our own Mothers...
What's more, Jesus never called her Mother, or Mom...He called her woman...Doesn't sound like a very unique love to me...
Pretty apparent Mike Shea is making stuff up...