[lsucat]

Of course I can only speak for myself, but our infertility pain was not due to the loss of a biological child. For us, it was more a loss of the "way things are done." I never got to tell my husband I was pregnant. I never got to be pregnant. I never got to do all the things that everyone else does. It may sound silly, but at the time, that was the pain. It was also the fear of the unknown. Would we ever have children?

Having said that, we chose to skip all medical interventions and proceed directly to adoption. We decided that we wanted children. Period. The pregnancy turned out not to be so important to us. Thank God for all that, because the children I have mean the world to me.

[old and tired]

Thanks for responding. I really do appreciate hearing from people on this subject. Now that you are a mother, would you say your infertility still causes you pain?