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Anger overmanagement: Some men simply can't get mad
startribune.com ^ | Sep 29 2003 | by H.J. Cummins

Posted on 09/29/2003 2:16:27 PM PDT by bicycle thug

When a mighty force overstuffs a container, it shatters.

Scott Trobec shattered, in 1996, after a lifetime of never saying an angry word to anyone.

Sound impossible? Not to mental health experts who counsel men suffering from what could be called anger over-management. These men don't know how to get mad.

They are not just gentle or easy-going types, the experts stress. They are the opposite extreme of the common view of men and anger -- violent, out-of-control guys who stab their wives or beat their children or shoot up the office where they got fired -- and they leave a different, more private path of destruction.

(Excerpt) Read more at startribune.com ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: anger; apa; dsmiv; emotions; genderissues; males; men; mentalhealth; psychology

1 posted on 09/29/2003 2:16:27 PM PDT by bicycle thug
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To: bicycle thug

Sounds like this man...

"I'm a big, four-eyed lame-o and I wear the same stupid sweater every day!" -- "Home Sweet Homediddly-Dum-Doodily (3F01)"

2 posted on 09/29/2003 2:20:48 PM PDT by Dutchgirl
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To: bicycle thug
Are they sure this example's name wasn't really "Tom Daschle"?
3 posted on 09/29/2003 2:21:21 PM PDT by theDentist (Liberals can sugarcoat sh** all they want. I'm not biting.)
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To: Dutchgirl
Save for the one time when Springfield rebuilt his house after the hurricane.
4 posted on 09/29/2003 2:22:59 PM PDT by Pyro7480 (“We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid" - Benjamin Franklin)
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To: bicycle thug
Admittedly, I just skimmed the article, but it made quite an impression on me.  Previously, I bottled up my anger, shoving it deep down inside into a glowing, white, little ball that burned like a rage hotter than one thousand suns, erupting with an unstoppable fury at the most inopportune moments.

But after skimming the article, I've decided to relieve some stress by going on in and shooting up the office 


Owl_Eagle

”Guns Before Butter.”

5 posted on 09/29/2003 2:24:19 PM PDT by End Times Sentinel (Mr. Sharon, PUT UP THAT WALL!!!)
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To: bicycle thug
Angry? Me?

What gave me away?

6 posted on 09/29/2003 2:31:11 PM PDT by Dead Corpse (For an Evil Super Genius, you aren't too bright are you?)
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To: bicycle thug
Oh, this problem is easy to fix. Just have these guys live with my first wife for a few days. Well, maybe not a few days. A couple of hours would probably do it.
7 posted on 09/29/2003 2:35:17 PM PDT by isthisnickcool (Guns!)
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To: bicycle thug
Liberal society pushs this anger repression upon males. The straight white males is the most abused, used, overtolerant person in the universe. Homosexuals, blacks, women, and Phil Donahue intellectuals ridicule him while the government taxes him to support the irresponsibility of others.

Additionally, this society has become divided into two groups --those who believe they are licensed to prey upon others, and those who are exhorted to be willingly preyed upon in the name of socialism, Christianity, or whatever. There is no corrective action.

If I were to kill everyone in my life who needed killing and who would have been killed 150 years ago, I'd have bodies stacked up like cord wood. As it is, people around me get away with too much and refuse to accept the word "no."

8 posted on 09/29/2003 2:40:28 PM PDT by RLK
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To: Dutchgirl
It's scary how you hit the nail on the head with that example.
9 posted on 09/29/2003 2:41:11 PM PDT by bicycle thug (Fortia facere et pati Americanum est.)
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To: theDentist
It could be Daschle or even Mike Dukakis. There's another name for these men and it's slang for vulva.
10 posted on 09/29/2003 2:52:25 PM PDT by johnny7 (“I HAVE A RIGHT TO RULE THIS FRIGGIN' COUNTRY!!” -Hillary Clinton)
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To: Owl_Eagle
You have inspired me.

I just visualized stepping into a few select offices and after a cherry good morning, blowing their brains out.

I feel better already.

(Note to any nannies out there, I'm kidding)

11 posted on 09/29/2003 2:52:42 PM PDT by Fzob (Why does this tag line keep showing up?)
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To: RLK
I try not to get angry, but you have a good point. Society makes it hard to get too angry without severe penalties.

A neighbor kept pestering me once to visit for coffee. I finally went over and in the middle of the visit he left the room and returned nude. Gack!

I was angry, but I fled the scene of this visual nastiness. I found out he liked to invite guys up and do that and he got angry at my warning a couple of young guys he was not to be trusted and to keep away.

He came up to me and hit me. If you call it a blow. I said; "(name), you hit me." I looked down the street and saw several of the usual suspects, a few who are street people and junkies.

He yabbered on that I would get more if I didn't leave. I 'moved' him to the ground as gently as I could and explained to him how if I allowed his hissy fit slap to be unanswered, it would endanger me if the grapevine put out I was a coward.

I told him I would let him up, but he had better be the one retreating, or else. Needless to say, he left.

I reported this to the local police substation, and the station manager went over to talk to this rediculous piece of trash. He has moved away - fortunately - and I keep deterence up to keep the peace as best I can.

Which is a chore in a bad neighborhood in this Measure 11 state. Violence and anger should be used constructively in self defense if needed.

Without it, one is endangered and the quality of life is comprimised.

12 posted on 09/29/2003 3:05:24 PM PDT by bicycle thug (Fortia facere et pati Americanum est.)
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To: bicycle thug

13 posted on 09/29/2003 3:16:04 PM PDT by SpaceBar
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To: isthisnickcool
I think we share an ex-wife.
14 posted on 09/29/2003 3:23:19 PM PDT by StatesEnemy
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To: StatesEnemy
... an ex-wife.

Making a wife in to an ex-wife is a great stress reliever.

However, I still have a lot of anger against the quack therapists she's still friends with. Actually, the entire so-called "profession".

And her "support" group of hags that had already wrecked their own marriages, or were on the way.

15 posted on 09/29/2003 3:34:43 PM PDT by Calvin Locke
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To: Fzob
(Note to any nannies out there, I'm kidding)

Just claim you are a black arab female and the "nanny"-types are profiling you.

16 posted on 09/29/2003 3:36:14 PM PDT by Calvin Locke
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