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What black parents must do now ...
Houston Chronicle ^ | August 6, 2003 | CLARENCE PAGE

Posted on 08/06/2003 12:49:26 AM PDT by Cincinatus' Wife

As the black parent of a teenager, I share the recently publicized pain of some black high school parents in Shaker Heights, an affluent suburb of Cleveland.

Distressed that their teen-aged children's grades were lagging behind those of their white counterparts, despite having similar socioeconomic advantages in the racially mixed school district, the black parents organized their own investigation.

They invited anthropology Prof. John U. Ogbu, a well-known figure in the field of student achievement for the past 30 years, all the way from the University of California at Berkeley to examine the district's 5,000 students and figure out why the black-white performance gap persists.

Six years later, Ogbu has published his findings in a book, Black American Students in an Affluent Suburb: A Study of Academic Disengagement (Lawrence Erlbaum Associates publishers).

Not all of the parents are pleased with his conclusions. That's because he found part of the problem to be the parents.

As Ogbu told a New York Times reporter, there were two parts to the problem, "society and schools on one hand and the black community on the other."

"What amazed me is that these kids who come from homes of doctors and lawyers are not thinking like their parents," he said. "They don't know how their parents made it. They are looking at rappers in ghettos as their role models, they are looking at entertainers. The parents work two jobs, three jobs, to give their children everything but they are not guiding their children."

Needless to say, Ogbu has received a wild mix of praise and criticism, including from his fellow scholars. Some denounce his methods as too anecdotal, but in Ogbu's field that's not necessarily a defect. Anecdotes carefully collected and reported often can reveal truths that broader statistical studies conceal.

I've been following Ogbu's work since the 1980s, when he and fellow anthropologist Signithia Fordham, ) now at the University of Rochester, stirred up a national hornets nest by finding significant numbers of black students rejected rigorous pursuit of academics as "acting white."

Other scholars have studied Shaker Heights and other similar districts and found little difference in the tendency of the kids to make fun of friends who do well in school, except that lower-income kids tend to do it more. Since black students tend more often to come from lower-income families, they probably feel more of such peer pressure.

And other experts find that we unintentionally hand self-defeating messages down to our children in many ways. Claude Steele, a Stanford University psychologist, for example, has more than a dozen years of research that shows black students, among others, tend to perform 10 to 15 points lower than whites out of anxiety that they might confirm the low expectations others have of their race.

With those findings and many others in mind, we should never make too much of the impact that teen culture may have on achievement. But we certainly shouldn't make too little of it, either.

Your attitude, in large measure, determines your altitude, as I once heard Jesse Jackson say. Your first step in achieving is to believe that you can achieve.

There is no shame in the mere fact that some groups show different levels of interest and performance in education and other skills. It is only a shame if the low performers don't do something to improve.

Asian-Americans outperform whites academically, for example, yet no one blames racism for white "underachievement." Similarly, the rest of us should not reject useful insights about our children, either, even when it is a little painful to hear.

By facing obvious realities openly and honestly, we can begin to encourage a self-image among black youths that will help them to value their brains as much as their basketballs or the "bling-bling" and "ching-ching" of rap stars on MTV and BET.

Unfortunately, we parents tend too often to believe our kids are going to pick up these important messages on auto-pilot. Or we take too much comfort in hearing our children tell us how much they value good grades, as most of the black teens told Ogbu they do.

As Ronald Reagan told the old Soviets: Trust, but verify.

Parents of teens fight a never-ending battle against the negative influences of their teens' peers. But it must be fought relentlessly, as well as affectionately.

"We're doing this because we love you," my folks used to say when they put me on lock-down until my homework was done. Ha, I scoffed, how could such cruelty possibly be linked to love?

Lately I am realizing what they meant. Thanks, folks, wherever you are. I'll try to share the wealth.

<I< Page is a Pulitzer Prize-winning syndicated columnist specializing in urban issues. He is based in Washington, D.C. (cpage@tribune.com).


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A Cry in the black education wilderness*** So, not long ago, I spoke with Rev. Michael Williams, pastor of Joy Tabernacle church. In writing a column afterward, I focused on those issues which he and I held in common, such as parents' major role in early education.

Williams chastised me later for not playing up his other points, such as that "serious and significant inequities" in funding and facilities exist in white and black communities, and that "American institutional life is designed to support white supremacy and public education is no different."

I had chosen to ignore some of his more outrageous statements, such as that "college is overrated for black people" and that many good jobs exist for people without college degrees.

Even if that were true, why would Williams, who also happens to be a trustee of the Houston Community College board, preach that to young people?

People who believe, as Williams apparently does, that black people are powerless to achieve excellence in their lives because they are oppressed victims ought to take a note from all the people who are out there working hard to show black children how bright the future can be. That's real leadership.***

Cambridge Schools Try Integration by Income *** "While there are a handful of exceptions, in general high-poverty schools don't work," said Richard D. Kahlenberg, an educational researcher at the Century Foundation who is a leading advocate for economic integration as the way to raise achievement among poor children. But critics say that the way to help low-income students make educational gains has to be more effective teaching - not moving children around. "There's something wrong with the assumption that if you've got too many low-income kids in a classroom, you can't teach them," said Abigail Thernstrom, a senior fellow at the Manhattan Institute who has extensively researched race and education. "My response to that is: No excuses. Start to educate the kids."***

1 posted on 08/06/2003 12:49:26 AM PDT by Cincinatus' Wife
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To: Cincinatus' Wife
There are three realistic options for ensuring your children receive a good, well-rounded education. They are:

1. Homeschool
2. A good Private School
3. A combination of homeschooling/private school classes

That's it!
2 posted on 08/06/2003 12:59:33 AM PDT by Cindy
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To: Cindy
I agree.
3 posted on 08/06/2003 1:01:54 AM PDT by Cincinatus' Wife
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To: Cindy
"Other scholars have studied Shaker Heights and other similar districts and found little difference in the tendency of the kids to make fun of friends who do well in school, except that lower-income kids tend to do it more. Since black students tend more often to come from lower-income families, they probably feel more of such peer pressure."
The other races don't consider academic achievment as being traitorous to their race. This is huge, in my estimation- that it is nerdy, uncool or 'white' to exert yourself in school. Could there be a more devious or more successful program to keep blacks back than to convince them that knowledge is worthless?
4 posted on 08/06/2003 1:13:28 AM PDT by thegreatbeast (Quid lucrum istic mihi est?)
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To: thegreatbeast
Could there be a more devious or more successful program to keep blacks back than to convince them that knowledge is worthless?

Equally destrustive is being paid to exist. It kills initiative.

5 posted on 08/06/2003 1:17:50 AM PDT by Cincinatus' Wife
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To: Cindy
Parents of teens fight a never-ending battle against the negative influences of their teens' peers

My 15 year old was homeschooled. We consider peer interaction important, so we "orchestrate" his peer exposure.

We invite teenagers over to our home a couple of times a month to "hang out" and play pool or board games.

We know the kids (mostly other homeschooled kids) and lots of times the parents stick around as well.

It's amazing to watch a group of teenagers having a good time, and not being bothered by the fact that their parents are in the living room.

In fact, we've often commented about the socialization issue, in that through the evening the kids will drift in and out of the "adult gathering", sitting for awhile to talk, and then go back to join the teenagers.

Major bump for homeschool, nothing we did, just the result of not being peer dependent, and being able to "socialize" with people of all ages.

Also most of the high school home schoolers we know use our dual enrollment program at the local college. Pass the College Placement Test and you can take college classes for free that count as High School and College credits.

6 posted on 08/06/2003 3:33:48 AM PDT by dawn53
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To: Cincinatus' Wife
Good article.

I'm thinking that black parents need to stage their own little rebellion against the contrived "black culture" that is being force-fed to their children. It's not their culture. It has elements of their culture but it's not their culture, and it's not helping anyone except the stars who are using and abusing the next generation.

Rip out the cable, folks. Take out the TV and throw out everything in the music collection that you wouldn't want your kid to start singing in front of the congregation at church. Ride their little backs to get their homework done WELL each night, and TALK to them about what you know and think and believe. In other words, transmit your culture the natural way. Do not rely on the media to transmit it for you because their goal is NOT to make a citizen of your child, nor an individual who can think for him or herself. Their goal is to get your kids addicted to handing them their money.

It's as simple as that for white and black alike. Your kids won't get your values if you don't spend time communicating them.

It's high time that true black culture was valued by parents enough that they pass it on to their children. It took courage and intelligence to get from Reconstruction sharecropping to the 21st century upper middle and upper class. To stay there, they have to teach their kids to value courage and intelligence.
7 posted on 08/06/2003 6:34:56 AM PDT by ChemistCat (Transformers look just as good by morning light as they did the night before.)
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To: mhking
Ping.
8 posted on 08/06/2003 6:38:26 AM PDT by ChemistCat (Transformers look just as good by morning light as they did the night before.)
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Black conservative ping

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9 posted on 08/06/2003 6:41:15 AM PDT by mhking
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To: Cincinatus' Wife
Isn't this letter to the editor absolutely amazing?
Wonderful commentary. I was so surprised to see this in the Houston Chronical.
10 posted on 08/06/2003 9:37:29 AM PDT by hocndoc (Choice is the # 1 killer in the US)
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To: hocndoc
Whoops.
It's "Chronicle." And, on a closer look, this is an opionion piece by Clarence Page.

It's still excellent. (and worth the extra bump afforded by my correction.)
11 posted on 08/06/2003 9:41:37 AM PDT by hocndoc (Choice is the # 1 killer in the US)
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To: dawn53
My 15 year old was homeschooled. We consider peer interaction important, so we "orchestrate" his peer exposure.

We do the same thing with our eight-year-old son. We want him to have friends. He enjoys playing with other kids. We just don't want "socialization," if that's defined as "assimilating the prevailing culture."

He's homeschooled, but he's no hermit. Scouts, Tae Kwan Do, golf, piano, friends and neighbors. I don't want to pick my son's friends, but we do limit the pool of possible friends. We definitely control his access to strangers and folks who lead lifestyles we don't approve of.

Yep. I said it. Bold as brass. We don't let our kid play with kids from families we disapprove of.

12 posted on 08/06/2003 9:55:11 AM PDT by TontoKowalski
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To: dawn53
My 15 year old was homeschooled. We consider peer interaction important, so we "orchestrate" his peer exposure.

We do the same thing with our eight-year-old son. We want him to have friends. He enjoys playing with other kids. We just don't want "socialization," if that's defined as "assimilating the prevailing culture."

He's homeschooled, but he's no hermit. Scouts, Tae Kwan Do, golf, piano, friends and neighbors. I don't want to pick my son's friends, but we do limit the pool of possible friends. We definitely control his access to strangers and folks who lead lifestyles we don't approve of.

Yep. I said it. Bold as brass. We don't let our kid play with kids from families we disapprove of.

13 posted on 08/06/2003 9:55:19 AM PDT by TontoKowalski
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To: Cincinatus' Wife
Marry and stay married to the other parent of your child/children.
14 posted on 08/06/2003 9:58:43 AM PDT by biblewonk (Spose to be a Chrisssssssstian)
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To: TontoKowalski
I figure that is going to get harder as the kids get older, but that's our philosophy too.

Just had to tell a kid he's not welcome over here anymore. We have strong evidence that he stole my cell phone. And he has acquired a reputation as a shoplifter...at age 11. So sad, but we saw it coming when he was in 2nd grade. No supervision at home, no real interest in what he does with his time.
15 posted on 08/06/2003 10:56:10 AM PDT by ChemistCat (Transformers look just as good by morning light as they did the night before.)
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To: biblewonk
But, polygamy is illegal.
16 posted on 08/06/2003 11:28:00 AM PDT by newgeezer (We learn by trail and errror. ;-)
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To: newgeezer
Oh man, it took me a second. LOL
17 posted on 08/06/2003 11:49:26 AM PDT by biblewonk (Spose to be a Chrisssssssstian)
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To: Cincinatus' Wife
What black parents must do now ...

Fathers should marry the mothers of their children.

Mothers should remember the names of their children's fathers.

18 posted on 08/06/2003 11:55:42 AM PDT by JesseHousman
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To: ChemistCat
You just can't be too careful, especially when they're young. A major drug bust in a local apartment complex snared 70 parents from our local elementary school. I can't imagine how I'd feel if we'd allowed my son to go to their house to play.

Agree with your contention that controlling access is more difficult as they get older, but with any luck, the foundations we're laying now will pay off in the future.

19 posted on 08/06/2003 12:27:13 PM PDT by TontoKowalski
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To: TontoKowalski
Your philosophy matches the one that my husband and I have adopted for our 7 and 5 year-old sons. Private school/homeschool and peers/parents who match our lifestyle.

While playing little league our 7 year-old would comment to us at home after the games, how some of the other boys were rude, impolite, mean, etc. Having parents who from an early age monitor their children's peers and activities; the children will grow-up with the sensibility to choose friends who match their upbringing.
20 posted on 08/06/2003 12:52:17 PM PDT by all4one
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