Only a sociopathic personality type would have ordered people to go out to the tollbooths, stand outside, and do anything, to say nothing of leaning over to check seatbelt usage.
The widow and the children are going to be immensely wealthy as a consequence - but I bet they'd like their own daddy.
Were you the one to give orders? If not, how do you know that they were?
Ease up on that anger.