**Are we women supposed to be brood mares until we keel over or be celibate while our husbands seek solace elsewhere?**
My wife and I waited until marriage (she was 21, and I was 24). We recognized the downside of sex without committment: giving up something very special, to someone we might not end up married to; the risk of an unplanned pregnancy; and the possibility of getting an std. On our first date, she made herself clear, saying she would never take the ‘pill’. She saw some health downsides, like higher blood pressure and weight gain She wasn’t particularly religious back then, so that wasn’t a factor.
We were both late bloomers, so I believe that helped us delay the mating urge some. I finished growing (6’2”) at age 19, I still was still only shaving about 1 or 2 times a week. A very skinny 5’7” hs grad, she turned into a real doll around 19. I was seeking the prettiest girl with good morals I could find, but by 23 I put myself in some steamy situations that I had to shut down (a couple that almost reached the point of no return).
Our was the classic wedding night: excited, yet clumsily learning, lol.
She taught me to not expect ‘it’ every night, but the wait was worth it (and still is over 45 years later).
The instant gratification mindset doesn’t build character, just a spoiled brat attitude.
I agree with you about instant gratification.
I blame the Playboy mentality for a lot....women gave up their natural role to become toys without consequence (abortion). How many women hit 40 something and realize they were just used and now it’s too late?