[marktwain]

She just kept going back until she had to kill him. I learned early to refuse to try to "help" the people involved in these sort of situations. The person "helping" often gets caught in the "crossfire". It is a mutual dance of destruction.

[ansel12]

I’ve never had to kill a girlfriend to break up with her, which is a good thing, because I think men are expected to just walk away from relationships that aren’t working or that they no longer desire to be in.

[Melinda in TN]

In this day and time, why do women stay with men that abuse them? I told my husband from day one, 40 years ago, that if he ever hits me, we’re done. He never has. I was a hot-headed redhead in our younger years, and I think he might have been afraid for his life. LOL

I have mellowed out, a lot! Still, nobody has to die over it. Just walk away.

[mikelets456]

So I can start using this excuse for politicians?

[ComputerGuy]

I once had a case where the potential defendant testified before the grand jury. Before expiring, her boyfriend told us that he regularly beat her up. She walked.

[Gay State Conservative]

Having worked for years in a big city ER I can assure Freepers that there are women who are badly mistreated,badly abused. In fact I can assure Freepers that there are women who are murdered by their husband/boyfriend/ex husband/ex boyfriend. Of the many bad memories I have of my time there one of my most vivid is having a young woman wheeled right past me as she was on her way to "Trauma 2". She was face up on the stretcher (so I saw her clearly) and she had a neat little bullet hole right in the middle of her forehead...about an inch above the bridge of her nose.

If I was a juror in this case I'd want to see evidence of abuse before I decided what punishment,if any,she deserved. ER reports...police reports...unbiased witnesses,etc. I'd also want to see evidence regarding the dead guy. Police reports...prison time...drugs/alcohol use,etc.

Some women surely exaggerate things like this but,like I said,there are more than a few very,very,very nasty husbands/boyfriends out there.

[bigfootbob]

Been there, done that myself with probably similar results of your reported incident. Actually, I became the odd man out and they joined forces against my intervention.

At the time it was the craziest thing that ever happened to me. I also learned not to get involved other than offering advice.

What saddens me is the fact according to the article, “… she's gotten five no contact orders and an order of protection against him” that women are fooled into thinking these pieces of parchment have any value whatsoever! It’s dangerous, disgusting and yet more reason to despise the dimocRAT party who hate victims of crime.

Abuse victims NEED more than parchment, they need separation from the predator if the predator cannot be incarcerated and they need to be given self defense training, separation anxiety assistance and a gun with ammo and training how to use it when the abuser comes to strangle her or kick her ass some other way.

[FoxInSocks]

She armed herself and then set him up. Instead of going back that final time, she should have stayed away instead of formulating a plan to kill him. Press charges and have him sent away — it’s not like nobody will believe her in this day and age.

[null and void]

“According to Women Against Abuse, a domestic violence nonprofit, it takes an average of seven attempts for a survivor to leave their abuser and stay separated for good.”

“...she’s gotten five no contact orders and an order of protection against him.”

5 no contact orders + 1 protection order + 1 shooting = 7 attempts to stay separated for good.

Right on target...

[CodeToad]

She wanted him, she got him, tough sh*t.

[Buttons12]

“Just leave.”
So easy to say.
I know a woman who thought the house belonged to her fiance. She moved in with the baby, age under 2.
Within a year she knew it wasn’t her house or even his, it belonged to a friend of his.
The physical abuse compelled her to leave.
She was outside the house with the baby and the clothes on her back. Wanted to go to a shelter. Police would not let her go in the house, nor would they go in. “Not her house.” Everything she had was in there, including her wallet, her ID, baby items, everything.
Shelter rules? You can stay up to six months, then you have to find yourself a place. With no income. No ID.
Took her another four years to escape, and after that attempt she was not allowed to use the phone or go out. Threats of kidnapping the baby convinced her to stay put and suffer.
Once the baby was of school age and talking, the odds started going in her favor and the abuser found a younger victim.
As for protection orders, abusers don’t respect paper.

[ridesthemiles]

WE HAVE COMPLETELY BRED THE SELF-PRESERVATION GENE OUT OF OUR WOMEN.....AND MANY OF OUR MEN.

[MIchaelTArchangel]

Straight from the feminist playbook:
1. Kill your boyfriend.
2. Claim it was self-defense after years of abuse.
3. Repeat.

[Harmless Teddy Bear]

Despite going back to the relationship, she said, "I know it's not love, but I know, he's a broken and a troubled person, and you know me, just being the person that I am, I'm always trying to heal and fix everything and everybody, and that's what I was trying to do with him."

Sweetie, you should try to heal what is broken in yourself before trying to fix someone else.

Good luck with that.

[jmacusa]

“When the Himalayan peasant meets the He bear in his pride/ he will shout to scare the monster, who will often turn aside.

But the She bear thus accosted rends the peasant tooth and nail/for the female of the species is more deadly than the male’’.- Kipling.