When my sons were younger, I told them that if, on a first date, the subject of her meds comes up, to wait five minutes, excuse yourself for the men’s room, go out the window, go home, take your name off the mailbox, change your phone number, and don’t go out for three months.
Never mind how I myself learned this lesson - but you can take it to the bank.
an older woman I knew, a nurse used to go to the bathroom and kitchen and examine all the meds.
Then make a decision whether she was staying the night (the permissive 70s)