Posted on 09/12/2022 1:09:13 PM PDT by billorites
Edited on 09/12/2022 3:41:59 PM PDT by Admin Moderator. [history]
Join a club, a church, a gaming group, take an adult education class, anything that meets in person.
Go outside and meet people.
Observe how people interact and try to imitate them. Learn what it means to be part of a real group, not an on-line group. Make friends.
Learn how to build a relationship.
Once you have learned how to make friends you can THEN move on the dating. Dating does not mean dinner and a show. Dating is not a euphemism for hoping into bed, doing the mattress mambo and then forgetting their phone number inside of thirty minutes.
You have been socially crippled by never having an actual peer group but you can overcome it.
Or not.
Because it will take work.
Everything that has value takes work.
AMEN. At Mass the priest made that exact point. I was away on vacation at Mass in another Church.
Exactly!!
Well, some men are a bit cautious now since nowadays when a woman has regrets and changes her mind after the fact, she claims rape rather than take hard look in the mirror and take responsibility for her own actions.
Drunk hook-ups use to make people say to themselves, “I can’t believe I did that.” Then move on. Now they press charges.
Can’t even read this. Such a lost confused person.
I was a teenager in the ‘60s and I never thought that. In fact, I don’t think anyone in My Gen-gen-gen-eration could possibly think that.
Get to the gym
Do some MMA
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You can remove those.
Lack of social skills?
Today’s youth is brain-washed into believing that they are nothing, a nobody unless they partake in social media, and have lots of online “friends/followers.” They are encouraged to live for today, and not think about the future. They are also brain-washed to be reliant on others, to be concerned what other people think of them, and aren’t expected to be responsible for their bad decisions in life. They are encouraged to see themselves as victims, and to blame others for their own failures. Laziness, the lack of common sense, along with the inability to critically analyze things are offshoots of individuals reliant on the internet.
I am a firm proponent of people remaining virgins until they are married. It removes about 95% of the problems in that area of your life.
But people should be interested in sex.
And a good number of people are not. That is not healthy.
We are going to end up like Japan, with a bunch of people who drop out entirely, others who are so deep into fantasy that they can't handle reality and a few who get into some truly unhealthy stuff.
The birth rate will drop and drop and drop some more.
That is extinction level stuff.
Pass, I've live in cities and in small towns, there's one common thing, there's always a church where the singles go and the stories and drama would make a soap opera writer blush.
Plus generally the only women who go to church are single moms.
Fixed it.
Gen Eloy...
They may be much more interested in a real relationship first and that is a good thing.
But I do believe people are starting way too late and that is affecting the number of committed relationships. Mostly because they are letting "success" get in the way of marriage.
And when you have been around the block a few times you get jaded and your confidence will fall.
My prescription(s):
Men: treat women with respect.
Women: don’t be sluts.
Men and women: realize that the sexual revolution was a fraud. The hookup culture is essentially the mainstreaming of homosexual perspectives and practices: children are irrelevant; transitory relationships are the norm; people are disposable and interchangeable; you are only young once, so try to have as much sex as you can when you are young and try to live on the memories thereafter. It is not coincidental that the culture is having a homosexual moment; straight people are being indoctrinated into the belief that the gays had it right all along.
Add:
Get a skill set , learn a trade, anything, something develop a touchstone.
Learn how to start a sentence without “like.”
Read a book that is not fiction and, oh, yeah, get schooled on what’s going on in the world.
Get a bigass motorcycle.
Go to a meeting, public, whatever, claim you’re studying something.
Hold doors open for people. Help folks with their shopping carts.
Avoid living on takeout food.
Dress like you thot about it. Don’t go shopping in the yoga pants.
Read the owner’s manual for your vehicle so you don’t sound like a total idiot if a problem comes up.
Command presence is a real thing. Act like you know what you’re doing.
If sex is the concern, keep your hair like you thot about it. reasonable tidiness goes a long way. Avoid dressing like you’re part of a club.
Stay awake in class. One never knows what tidbit will help a conversation later.
My own problem is keeping chicks from following me home.
You dont go to church to find dates. You go to church to build your relationship with God and be surrounded by like minded people who share in the desire to live with Godly purpose. You strengthen others and others strengthen you in this.
Its too bad you either had a bad experience or you weren’t focused on the right reasons for being there. If one church doesnt make you feel welcome, there are others to try. Its your search for Godly relationships, not theirs.
That was easier to do when people got married shortly after going through puberty.
Asking people now to remain virgins well into their late 20s-mid 30s is something no society throughout history ever encouraged.
also, romance....there is no romance anymore....
true. I remember dating, getting semi dressed up, going to dinner or a car show or movie, kissing good night.
shame alot of kids have missed this.
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