Was it not possible to bring your dad home?
I have two sisters that now care for my senile mom full time. She’s 92.
We brought her out of a home in February.
It’s been challenging, at least. Dementia and still ambulatory. She requires 7x24 attention or she’ll wander off. She’s even started a kitchen fire.
We all pitched in and bought her a chair lift to get to the 2nd floor of my eldest sister’s home. Put alarms on every door.
I can tell my two sisters suffer the fatigue of 7x24 care. But they are insistent she’ll not be in a home where the virus rampages.
Not to be disrespectful, but in some situations it is not possible. There are a number of reasons that is not possible, and what you said just laid alot of guilt on a whole lot of people who already feel guilty.
I do think many older people would rather die than to be in isolation. Where I live attorneys on TV are advertising the isolation fact and letting people know to contact them for help. Maybe if a few family members started threatening to sue, things would change
Believe me, I've spent many hundreds of hours in the past 2+ years brainstorming ways to make this possible.
I could fill 5 full pages here summarizing each problem to be overcome and all the ideas for how to solve each.
If we were wealthy it would have been a cinch - buy a handicap-accessible home and all move into it, buy an actual wheelchair van, hire a nurse to visit several times daily, hire a cook to make the specially-processed meals that are still appetizing enough to convince someone to eat them, pay for unlimited PT+OT+ST visits, hire other healthcare workers experienced enough to recognize the telltale signs when something's changed for the worse, and more.
But since we aren't wealthy, then all the special needs would have to be covered by ours + Dad's financial situation, requiring alternative solutions.
"... still ambulatory. ... Put alarms on every door."
That's one whopping difference = the fact your Mom is ambulatory.
If she ever becomes completely non-ambulatory, not able to assist in all the necessary daily transfers, you will fully realize the difference between your current situation and other families.
Or at least your sisters will.
I hope your Mom is still aware enough of her situation, that she is immensely grateful to your two sisters and tells them so frequently. If not, then someone else, like for instance yourself, needs to do that.