I don’t think that women experience ‘lust’ - or interpret it - in the same way that men do. Natural women will speak of ‘love’ or ‘affection’ or ‘attraction’.
What Carter said in that interview refers to what men feel and think - he was “speaking” to a male audience.
Everyone has the natural instinct to appreciate God’s handiwork, when they see it in Nature. It doesn’t mean that they want to BE with that person, or even would, given the chance - but seeing someone attractive can certainly inspire appreciation and desire - and I think that is all that Carter was intimating.
(What happened with your first wife?)
Lust is wanting to sleep with a woman.
Here’s how dictionary.com references it.
noun
- intense sexual desire or appetite.
- uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness.
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This isn’t limited to simply thinking someone is pretty.
It’s about thinking about taking their clothes off, laying down on a bed with them, and going through steps to consummate the act.
This isn’t the natural thought of all men. Some men, it is. Men who love their wives don’t allow themselves to think of being in bed with someone else.
When I’m married, it doesn’t appeal to me to be with someone in bed other than my wife. It’s unsettling. It would hurt my wife, could end our marriage, would disrupt the children’s lives, the extended family’s lives, and our financial standing for decades to come.
Real men, do not entertain such thoughts. The people who do think these thoughts will tell you all men do, and women love to think all men do. It gives them a feeling of superiority.