You put words in my mouth. I didn’t say he was not easy going at home. I would bet he is pretty much the same at home as he is in public. You are trying to simplify this and unless you understand people like him it is not simple.
Men like him are generally easy going at home and in public. What I was getting at is far deeper than that. There are things they do and don’t tolerate, doesn’t mean they throw a fit...not at all. If things are not to their liking they don’t expect the other person to change or bend to their will or anything like that. They think they need to make a change, if they feel it strong enough they are done.
Men like Todd are different than people expect them to be...they are not the tough acting guy in a bar or whatever, they are usually the more reserved guy that “tough guys” know to pay attention to or they soon learn. They are easy going but it is not weakness and they do not want to be messed with. Men like that don’t feel they have to prove anything to anyone and they are comfortable in their skin. The only time I have seen Todd look uncomfortable was during the McCain campaign appearances that were loaded with politicians other than Sarah. Even when the Palin’s had drama in their family, even after his wreck...he seemed to be dealing well with all of it, taking it in stride. Doesn’t mean he was not disappointed or not angry, just that he was able to deal with it better than a campaign situation. At the campaign events though he looked like a man that would love to duck out the side door and leave in his pickup. He didn’t want to deal with it, but was doing his best because he had loyalty to Sarah and class enough to go along.
I have even seen Todd when he was very angry, yet I am sure most did not see it. When the media and even the McCain people were trashing Sarah at times it looked to me like he wanted more than anything to punch someone. Which would have been fine with me, they were asking for it. He kept his cool though which is not easy when people are attacking your wife for their agenda.
I am going to say Sarah is pretty much the same at home as public too. I see Sarah as easy going too, didn’t say she isn’t. She is very strong, and an in charge person but she is basically the female version of Todd.
It could have been either one of them that decided they were done. I have no idea. There is a saying that describes them both, still waters run deep.