I see no difference in her “coming out” and having an affair with another man. In either case, she would have felt “unfulfilled - something was missing” in her life. Indeed, if the husband felt that he needed to have an affair with his beautiful younger secretary, would it be wrong, or would he simply be doing what he needed to do in order to be fulfilled? Why isn’t extra-marital sex cool like coming out?
.....”I see no difference in her coming out and having an affair with another man.”.....
You need a vision test perhaps.
Exactly what I just said above.