If you are used to cheating in your marriage, and lying about it, then perhaps you are part of the problem.
I did not, but was lied to regularly. And when I was on active duty, everyone was bonking everyone, swinging, hitting on their step children, gay females hitting on me, harrassing, etc. Active military is not for the prudish. I was in charge of compiling the trainee abuse complaints. If you think military personnel are saints, you are dead wrong. It’s all about the power.