I m fairly sure if one of our daughters got pregnant out of wedlock, my wife and I would raise the child. I do not think I could ever get used to one of my grandchildren being “somewhere” else.
The studies of grandparents and single mothers raising children are pretty conclusive. It damages the child (lesser outcomes than children raised by 2 parents). What this mother did for her child was the greater love. She did what was best for the child.
I’m with you on that.
I agree 100%.
Regards,
I faced this situation last year. My daughter who has nearly straight A’s and has stayed out of trouble all through high school turned up pregnant as a 17 yr. old. I suspected it from her being sick in the mornings and my Mom who has this strange ability came to me and said your daughter is pregnant, I dreamed it last night. Sure enough two weeks later she had the baby daddys, great grandmother call my wife and tell her.
We were still stunned, shocked and disappointed as she had been given the facts of life early on. Still we got supported her pregnancy, took her to the doctor throughout the pregnancy and nearly lost her and the baby with a month early premature C-section. The baby was in the NICU for nearly three weeks having been born at a little over 3 lbs.
She wanted to keep the baby and we supported her. Her church supported her as well, being pro-life. She maintained her grades and works two days a week on the weekend to make her car payment each month. My wife has taken a second job to pay for the daycare, but it is worth it for the little blessing that our grandson is.
Sadly the babies father essentially is worthless and has contributed nothing towards the care of the child. His mother is a pill head and drug dealer and his grandparents, one of whom is bipolar, have raised him. They have offered no help either yet demand to see the child at their convenience without supervision.
Finally my daughter who turned 18 a few months ago put her foot down and told them if I am not welcome in your home, my baby isn’t coming there unsupervised. She has offered many times to meet them at a public, neutral sight for visits and they have turned her down. Currently she is being sued by the great grandmother for custody because they want unlimited visitation. Total mess. But the little guy is worth the fight!!! We go to court this afternoon for a custody hearing, pray for us!