My wife and I have been labelled as the international Grandparents.
Kids of all ages, we know and don’t know act like we are their grandparents and want to be hugged and held by us.
On advice from a good lawyer not a rat one, we now restrict our returns to high fives or fist bumps.
Yes, adjustments have to be made, and you seem to have found that balance! It would seem strange to end a date with a fist bump or high five! lol Humor is a good medicine in difficult times...seems appropriate.