I spent a lot of time in San Francisco and the medical community during the early 1980s.
Every single female was a lesbian because of a perceived or a real threat from men. They were afraid or distrustful of men and were attracted to women because of that feeling.
Every single male either wanted to control or to be controlled. And it was ALWAYS a power thing. Someone was always the catcher and someone was always the pitcher. And there were a lot of media and industry men who bought houses up and down Highway 101 and kept a harem of men and women in those places.
What a horrible time and place.
What you said explains a lot.