“Hope The Boss’s son is doing better.”
No, he is not doing better.
The following story is not to elicit sympathy nor empathy because, truthfully, he and I have never gotten along and outwardly disliked each other. It is a cautionary story:
The boss’s son has the following ailments:
About ten years ago he had a sextuple, heart-bypass operation.
He has high blood pressure.
Diabetes.
His kidneys have shut down completely.
Last week his right leg was amputated below the knee because gangrene had invaded his foot due to the diabetes.
Since that surgery another open sore was found on his left foot which would require another surgery to amputate his left leg below the knee.
Day before yesterday he experienced pain in his urinary tract. The diagnosis is that he has an internal gangrene sore in his urinary tract. The doctors have said that perhaps they can control that sore with medication. However, they have also said that gangrene has invaded his entire body.
Today he made the decision to stop all surgeries, treatments and medications except for morphine.
He is to be transferred to a hospice where he will receive only morphine to try to control his pain. The doctors have estimated that, due to his kidneys not functioning, he will live for approximately one week because the dialysis will stop.
All of his ailments are genetic from his father’s side of the family. He accelerated the process with his alcoholism. He has attempted suicide on many occasions using alcohol on one occasion and various other prescribed medications on other occasions.
He is only 57 years old. His mother is in San Antonio with him and will stay with him until the outcome.
From my point of view, this will be a blessing in disguise for him. He has suffered lifelong, deep depression which was partially genetic and partially from the emotional and mental abuse/mistreatment he received from his biological father.
What is cautionary?
If you know that members of your family had disease/s “x,” and that doing “y” accelerates the process then do not do any of the “ys”!
If you know that “z” will help strengthen your body against disease/s “x” then do “z”.
For your dear wife’s sake, I pray that he will not have to suffer much longer from his self-inflicted conditions that have shortened his life. Give him comfort till the end.
Even if we dislike someone, we don’t wish them to suffer in pain. (((hugs)))
Hospice will do all they can to make the transition an easy one. I know that from our experience with my MIL till she passed.