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My Bible trumps your experience. Abuse is wrong. Always. Spanking is not abuse. Abuse is abuse. All three of my children were spanked. All three are well mannered and extremely loved. Deep lessons went into each disciplinary session. There were times I showed mercy so I could teach about the mercy of a Heavenly Father who doesn’t give us what we deserve. More hugs and kisses and loving words were given than spankings (by a factor of 100 or more).,,which is certainly the problem with your experience.

What was the result? Well, we lost count of number of times that people would come up to our table in a restaurant when our children were little and tell us how wonderful they were and how well behaved they were. It’s because they had a healthy balance of discipline. We let them be kids at home but in public they knew, even when they were 2, that they better behave. There are rules for a polite society and children cannot be reasoned with at times. But the bottom line is this: God’s Holy Word says that there are times when it is appropriate to physically discipline your children. The reason problems arise is because people don’t follow all of God’s Word and forget to love and to raise them according to the tenor of their way (Proverbs 22:6). However, to throw out Gods Word because of sinful people is always the wrong approach. People adjust to God’s Word. We don’t adjust God’s Word because of people.

But, if you are one who believes you can rewrite God’s Word or who doesn’t believe in God to begin with, you’ve got bigger problems than disciplinary issues.

Couldn’t have been said better.

I have two boys in Marine basic training, a 15 year old daughter that is a model child, and an adopted 13 year old son who is the biological child of a meth addict that used while pregnant. All have been reared using Gods principals and precepts. Very diverse but with the same results.