What happens is this: If the woman feels she is being sexually harassed and goes to HR they will tell her to document each incident - write down every detail of what was said and who was present. The harasser thinks she’s “OK with it” while she is building the case against him, and all the bystanders will be in for uncomfortable discussions.
sounds about right. I’ve had the distinct displeasure of being the independent company representative going and holding those uncomfortable discussions, investigating an accusation. Not a duty I ever want to repeat.