Children and grandchildren need to stay INVOLVED in the care of their parents. Even if they have hired help, which is fine. Supervise. Visit. Check up. For the duration.
“Stay involved...Supervise. Visit. Check up...”
Your elderly relatives (and friends!) need this even if they are not having trouble with abuse or neglect. Being ‘put out to pasture’ with out regular contact with family and associates is like being put in solitary confinement. We human beings are social creatures; we NEED to see and talk face to face with others.