I am not a slob, but to perform the sort of facial voodoo that these guys must do regularly,,,, only females do that AFAIK.
This is backed up by their effeminate behavior...........although they do seem coached to be macho on film at least.
I agree with your observation that there is a subset of gay men with facial features that are “a little too perfect”. Some use their looks to become actors. But I don’t think these people are doing anything to make themselves that way (makeup, etc.). Why is someone who looks like this so often gay and vice versa? It’s a strange mystery.
Not sure I get your message, but John Travolta has the face of a fag, as per several FReepers over the years. I concur.