Ad for virgin daughter strikes sour note at Christian magazine

SFGATE ^ | 03/08/2016 | Allan Turner

[DFG]

Christianity Today's chief editor Mark Galli has issued embarrassed apologies for a classified ad appearing in his publication's March edition that was placed by a parent soliciting a son-in-law for a "godly, gorgeous, athletic, educated, careered, humorous, traveled, bilingual" virgin daughter. Ostensibly, the winning candidate, "unworthy but becoming less so daily," would fill an elder position at a Chicago-area church. Galli, speaking for the staff of the genteel Wheaton, Ill.-based evangelical magazine, acknowledged that the Marketplace section ad was "demeaning and in poor taste."

[JimRed]

There is a movement where fathers rule their daughters lives until the father finds a husband for her.

I think it might be called "Islam".

[Wyrd bið ful aræd]

The main reason for that is because divorce wasn’t socially acceptable in the past. It had little to nothing to do with whether marriages were arranged or not.

[gdani]

Letting daughters “find their own mate” often leads to her and her children coming home to share your retirement. Surely you know someone like that.

Indeed. But I still do not think having a third party select one's life partner cures that problem.

[Graybeard58]

The Ad in question is useless without Pictures.

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He failed to mention, she’s a ringer for Helen Thomas.

[PatrickJames]

Okay, I’ll bite. Why are Christians upset by this? I’m sure I’m missing something.

[Idaho_Cowboy]

Wow, imagine the nerve of some folks, trying to find a decent mate for such a seriously flawed woman.

How dare they!

/s

The complainers have way too much time on their hands.

Where better to look for a mate for her than in a Christian publication?

What is the problem?

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I didn’t realize women were still property.

[DoughtyOne]

You truly do have a vivid imagination.

What proof do you have that the young woman wasn’t in on this?

[Idaho_Cowboy]

You truly do have a vivid imagination.

What proof do you have that the young woman wasn’t in on this?

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And it’s less creepy if she is?

[DoughtyOne]

They only thing I see creepy here is other people fixating on their business to judge it creepy.

[Idaho_Cowboy]

Chalk it up to personal experience. I can’t think of a single man I know that could pull this off. Or would want to. Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.

At some point you have to let the little “princess” go and trust you raised her to make good choices. Just my $.02

[DoughtyOne]

At twenty-six, that evidently hasn’t worked.

They may live in a place without too many guys available.

I appreciate your take on this. I just don’t think there’s anything wrong with this.

I have no way of knowing if this dad would force a respondent on his daughter. None of us does.

Isn’t it their business and not ours?

[Idaho_Cowboy]

At twenty-six, that evidently hasn’t worked.

They may live in a place without too many guys available.

I appreciate your take on this. I just don’t think there’s anything wrong with this.

I have no way of knowing if this dad would force a respondent on his daughter. None of us does.

Isn’t it their business and not ours?

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And it's the magazine business not to publish an ad that rings the creepy meter on a number of levels. If they didn't want any scrutiny they shouldn't advertise.

[DoughtyOne]

They ran the add.

[T-Bone Texan]

"...Letting daughters “find their own mate” often leads to her and her children coming home to share your retirement. Surely you know someone like that...."

Yep. It seems the norm nowadays.

I have a young daughter and another on the way. My overarching policy is to make all decisions until she is able to make her own decisions and come to the same conclusion as me- the correct one. I'm not raising a free spirit named Sunflower. I want her to possess my values.