“Gaydar” is mostly wishful thinking.
Right brained men are not all gay. Non-athletic men are not all gay. Philosophical and intellectual men are not all gay. Even “low T” does not guarantee gayness. (Remember “bears” who don’t relate to dames, because they don’t regard frail femininity as valid.) If someones community disses them as gay for the above reasons, they should move. There are more sensible communities.