There is a fine line IMHO. When we are told "they will hate you - because they hate(d) me", and also "take up your cross daily...", this is a call to action - to be salt and light.
The closest thing I can can think of - where I think you coming from is Matt 10:14 "If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet."
We need to be careful I think; there are those who will NOT hear, but there are also those whose hearts might be open. I think our default position - with the lost - is to always assume the latter. And then to present Christ with love, care and respect - but with the admonition "go - and sin no more...".
And the bottom: we need to be careful that we don't boast in our "non-homosexuality" - as if were not the recipients of undeserved grace:
1 Corinthians
26 Brothers and sisters, think of what you were when you were called. Not many of you were wise by human standards; not many were influential; not many were of noble birth. 27 But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. 28 God chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things—and the things that are not—to nullify the things that are, 29 so that no one may boast before him.
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I think ya’ll know what I’m trying to say...
Of course our default position should be that people are not “dogs” or “swine.” But once they in some way show themselves to be “dogs” or “swine,” we’re under no further obligation to evangelize them.
Homosexuals have been able to frame the debate. If ours was a godly nation, we should be evangelizing them in prison. God considers their behavior really no different than murder. Murderers should be evangelized in prison too, of course. Then again, we don’t tell murderers to “go and sin no more.” We throw them in prison. They have to pay for their crimes against God. Just as homosexuals should be paying for their crimes against God. They WERE imprisoned for the first couple hundred years of our history. I helped prosecute both murderers and homosexuals just a few short years ago.