Our adopted daughter was abused by her druggie mother and her new squeeze and then put into the system when she was 2. We had to tell her from the get go that she was adopted because she wasn’t placed with us until she was almost 4. She needed to have her story. She had bonded with her foster parents so that was a second loss. We had some photos but no baby pix. We found her birth family and when she was 14 we drove to where they lived to meet them. She still has a relationship with them. Its been an interesting journey. We’re very blessed to have her in our lives.
Your adoptive daughter was/ is blessed to have you and your husband in her life. I’m sure it made for a more honest relationship to let the girl know as much as she could handle.