Government NEVER controlled marriage. Marriage was between a man, woman, and a preacher where the only record might be entered in the Family Bible.
Some people had “common law” marriages until a circuit preacher came around. No license required.
Then a bureaucrat in the early 1800s decided people needed to ask the government’s permission to marry and forced people to get a license.
We still know real marriage is between a man and a woman. Sodomite “marriage” is nothing but the illusion of marriage where two of the same sex shack up till they get tired of each other.
I don't know that getting government completely out of the equation is the answer, but if the gay mafia continues their phony crusade to the next inevitable steps, it may be the only answer short of civil war.