I’m a “boomer” parent and my 3 girls turned out just fine. All were offered to have college paid for with a stipulation that it was not a financed party and certain grades were expected. The oldest decided to party. The offer was made that she could come home and go to a community college and live at home and work to pay her way through. She declined. It took her 8 years and some loans but she has a BA and is finishing her MA. She works and is married with a little one and still completing her Masters. We’re very proud of her.
Our second oldest was given the same rules. She decided to party. Same offer was extended to come home and go to local school. Nope. It took her seven years of working and taking classes but she got her degree. She is working and doing just fine.
Our youngest decided she wanted to earn it herself from the get go. She is on an aircraft carrier in a war zone doing her bit and taking college courses. She has been told she will be eligible for O.C.S. if she stays on this path.
I am very proud of our girls. They were never coddled. All 3 worked during high school for “fun” money and trips with the church youth group.
God bless you, and your girls.
Sounds like you got yourself a fine family FRiend.
One son rode a mini-bike from college to a gas station where he worked...more than once frozen ice on his face when he arrived... Today he serves two levels from the top of the Veterans Administration.
The other son walked to college and back....his choice to stay fit. Worked serving tables and today is manager of a five star hotel restaurant.
Both served in the military..Marines and the Airforce.
They put their own skin into their accomplishments...mom helped now and then.