Speaking as a career military officer, I don’t want those kids in the infantry. The volunteers are bad enough in half the cases. There’s no shame living with your parents with the stipulation that you’re working and paying rent. My older parents were very happy to have my sister living with them for 8 years after she graduated college. She worked full-time and paid rent and helped around the house. She saved a lot of money, is now married with a child and they had money to put towards their house. Not everything can be painted with a broad brush.
Exactly. You stole my thunder.
Most young people may want to live on their own, but sometimes they have no choice. I know married couples who’ve had to move in with parents (due to job loss, illness, etc.). Also, it’s a matter of tradition - in some families, continuing to live with your parents and siblings is not viewed as shameful. In the old days, that’s how people were able to save money and get back on their feet.
Some of my relatives continued to live with their folks into their older years. They worked and brought in money, often more money than their parents earned, and helped them pay the bills. I lived with my folks until age 24. I worked sometimes two jobs and was able to build up a nice nest egg. My mistake was marrying someone who wanted to live on his own starting at age 18 and never saved money.
:) i lived at home until i was 24... had a very good paying job (started at $24,000 a year back in 1988 when i finished college at 23 years old)... paid rent even though my parents didn't want it... bought my first house as a single woman at the age of 25... i had started saving my money since the age of 13 when i got my first job working for a teacher after school... did that for two years making $2-$4 dollars an hour... that was good money for a 13-14 year old back in the mid-late 70s...
I went into the military when I got out of high school and after my four years, I lived in an apartment. It was tough going for several years. Lived mostly on Kraft Mac & Cheese (5 boxes for $1) and had minimal belongings. However, it motivated me to get ahead in my job - which at the time was seen as a "dead-end" job that so many people today are afraid to take. After several promotions, I got into management and now have a Regional VP role today making well into six figures. No college education either.
I am confident I would not be where I am today had I gone back to live with my parents. I would have paid rent to my parents but it wouldn't be "market" rate and I'd get too used to having extra money to go to restaurants, get stereo equipment and get a new car. Which I could not do living alone because I would have gone hungry!
I know it's not easy being on your own when you are a young adult but I feel it is beneficial in the long run. Even today, I worry about losing my job and I'm always motivated to go higher up the ladder to secure my hard-won economic status.