Exactly. Look at all the things that had to be just in the right place for life to exist on this planet...the chances of this occurring randomly, are infinitesimal, at best.
I think there is probably life around. It may even be intelligent like a salmader, or even a dog. But technology seems really hard, even on earth. And it seems life is really hard even on relatively friendly mars.
So I say 40 billion to one is not good enough odds for me.
Life may indeed be plentiful, in a sense, though the process that allows it to happen requires thousands of separate events to coincide.
The Drake Equation is replaced by the newer Rare Earth Equation.
Yet, even so, even though life may be not common, but plentiful, intelligent life may be almost unheard of.
It's a horror book, once you read it and understand the implications.
But it does explain the Fermi Paradox.