Of course you are right, Maica.
Yes, the definition of RACIST means nothing in real life compared to the one in the dictionary.
The “rules” are what they are. Let me run them by one more time, there are only two:
1-NO black person can ever say anything racist about a white person, no matter what terms they use for race. They can INSULT a white person, that’s different from using racist terms. They don’t exist when comes to black people about white people.
2-ONLY WHITE people can use racist terms when referring to black people. Thus black people refer to each other with the “N” word because....refer to rule 2.
The corollary to your two rules is - no words from a black person truly hurt a white person, and this fact is one of the reasons that so many black people really despise white people.
Another story: Again I was inside of a car, this time in Kingston Jamaica, and pitiful ganga-ed rasta man came up to the window (this time closed) and started calling me the nastiest cursewords in Jamaican vernacular. I knew what he was saying - but the words held no power over an American. Again I laughed. Finally he stumbled away.
Then we need to ska-rew the rules and start calling them out as racebaiting communists...by name...starting with Jesse Jackass and Sharptongue, the "reverend" Wright, Calypso Louis, Myleak Shabazz and wherever the truth leads...including black "entertainers" and the First Wookie.